"Yesterday happens..."
This quote means a lot. While in the book, this refers to Eleanor going back to a broken home, and having many problems, it also very relatable to real life. This quote talks about the dark days we have as humans. The days that call for us just to lay down and give up. We all have dark times, where we question our meaning, as well as our worth. We feel like there just isn't any point, like we'll never get out of the valleys. Even when we do, the pain can stay with us for eternities.
For me, the "yesterday" was the month of December. My best friend fell on dark times, and I couldn't help. She always felt unneeded and unimportant, I had no idea. It wasn't until after she left that I found out how she felt and by that point, it was too late. That was the beginning of December, and the rest of the month followed suit. I did not have "friends". I didn't trust anyone, never told anyone how I felt. Even after I met people like Tanner, I didn't tell them for a long time. And even when I had their support, even when they knew, they didn't really care. No one could really help me, until I met a girl named Kayla. She helped me, when she barely knew me. All she knew was that I was in turmoil and that's all she cared about, was fixing that. She told me to live with the regret. To let it shape me for better.
We all have dark days. We all have our Decembers, or yesterdays, our pasts. These are inescapable, but how these shape us, that's up to us. Cruel men are the ones who gave up hope and stopped trying. Eleanor was fragile, and overemotional at times as a result. But as humans, we should allow our dark days to shape us for better. The moments when we choose to stand up when life tells us to sit down, when we speak out as life tells us to shut up. There's always reasons to keep fighting, to not give up. Become a better person because of the guilt and pain.
Sunday, October 26, 2014
Tuesday, October 7, 2014
The difference between "like" and "love"
Two words, so often associated with each other in relationships, what's the difference between the two? There are several, I believe.
First I'll talk about liking someone. When you like someone, it's temporary. It's almost similar to a transition zone between being friends, and being something more than that. It's almost as if you're experimenting, seeing if it works, how it goes. Determining whether or not you may want to last with them. You're not sure if they're the type you'd spend the rest of your life with. It's not promised, and it can at times fade. It's more tame as well. More clear to see and easier to describe, as well as being relatively shallow at times. It's not a deep feeling, not like others are. More than often "liking someone" fades away. Because, you may lose interest or find that you don't care. Because liking someone is a shallow feeling. You could leave as quickly as you came. Give it all up and throw it away. Find that you were only interested in them for their looks (which isn't a problem I'll face). Liking someone is not really meant to last.
Love, on the otherhand, is permanent. It doesn't fade. It's there to stay, and it intends to. When you love someone, they're beautiful to you. You see their very soul. Everything they are is written out on their face. You find joy in simply being around them. Just talking to them can lighten your day and take away any kind of pain you'd been through. When you truly love someone, you're fine with just being friends, because you love them enough to accept it. You can be yourself around them, and they wouldn't want it any other way. It's not always fun, especially loosing them, or seeing them love someone else. But you don't mind them loving someone else. You don't care if they hurt you, or if they run over you. You just want them to be happy. Love is uncondtional, sometimes unrequited. The song Yellow by Coldplay comes to mind. You'd bleed yourself dry, jsut to see them happy. You'll always be there for them, whether they no it or not. When they hit their low, you want to help them back to the top. You would go to any length just to see them smile. But people, especially teenagers, they throw this word around whenthey don't even understand what it means. When you love someone, everything they do is perfect and taken to the heart. You would die for them. But many people make love into a battlefield. This is not what love is. Love is never a fight. It's something worth fighting for.
First I'll talk about liking someone. When you like someone, it's temporary. It's almost similar to a transition zone between being friends, and being something more than that. It's almost as if you're experimenting, seeing if it works, how it goes. Determining whether or not you may want to last with them. You're not sure if they're the type you'd spend the rest of your life with. It's not promised, and it can at times fade. It's more tame as well. More clear to see and easier to describe, as well as being relatively shallow at times. It's not a deep feeling, not like others are. More than often "liking someone" fades away. Because, you may lose interest or find that you don't care. Because liking someone is a shallow feeling. You could leave as quickly as you came. Give it all up and throw it away. Find that you were only interested in them for their looks (which isn't a problem I'll face). Liking someone is not really meant to last.
Love, on the otherhand, is permanent. It doesn't fade. It's there to stay, and it intends to. When you love someone, they're beautiful to you. You see their very soul. Everything they are is written out on their face. You find joy in simply being around them. Just talking to them can lighten your day and take away any kind of pain you'd been through. When you truly love someone, you're fine with just being friends, because you love them enough to accept it. You can be yourself around them, and they wouldn't want it any other way. It's not always fun, especially loosing them, or seeing them love someone else. But you don't mind them loving someone else. You don't care if they hurt you, or if they run over you. You just want them to be happy. Love is uncondtional, sometimes unrequited. The song Yellow by Coldplay comes to mind. You'd bleed yourself dry, jsut to see them happy. You'll always be there for them, whether they no it or not. When they hit their low, you want to help them back to the top. You would go to any length just to see them smile. But people, especially teenagers, they throw this word around whenthey don't even understand what it means. When you love someone, everything they do is perfect and taken to the heart. You would die for them. But many people make love into a battlefield. This is not what love is. Love is never a fight. It's something worth fighting for.
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